This is part of the problem and an example of people's opinions not being respected. People do not like to be told (or have it implied) they they are in the minority because of the way that they feel and that everyone else (and that's quite a claim) disagrees with them. Everyone (yes, everyone) is free to express their opinion here. Opinions cannot be right or wrong. They can be discussed respectfully, but please do not try to "prove" someone's opinion is wrong. And forget about asking yourself "would I say this about my grandmother". Before hitting "submit reply", put your favorite character/actor's name in the post in place of the one you are complaining about. How would you feel if someone made that post?