Re: The Great Ship Debate
I think he was mildly attracted to Sofia...He tends to be fascinated by women in general, but I doubt anything "happened"...Not that she wasn't interested...but in Sara's case, I think he turned her down because he wasn't interested...him asking the others out proves to me that if he's interested he asks...Whether it works out or not...But he never asked Sara out...And when she asked, he turned her down each time...Clearly I'm missing what GSRs are seeing...
he turned her down in season 3 because he wasnt interested? um..well heres my take on that...
first of all, in that same scene, he says 'he doesnt know what to do about THIS'. after she says 'c'mon, lets see what happens' etc. so its blatently obvious there, he ackowledges there is something there, but he doesnt know what to do about it. then she says she does and by the time he works it out, he really could be too late. second of all, the timing was terrible, he was pre-occupied with his hearing loss stuff, and she had just broken up with hank and was probably emotionally vulnerable. is that really the best time to start dating? eh no. there were probably many reasons he couldnt at that time. doesnt mean he didnt like her romantically.
also, in season 4 we find out he IS interested in her, so much so, hes put a lot of thought into the risks of getting into a relationship with her and starting his life over.
Yes, he says he “could care about” her. You can certainly care about somebody without being in love with that person. He also plainly says he could never risk everything for her, which for me indicates that she really should get on with her life and stop believing in fairy tales
as you say, he plainly says he could never risk everything for her. fast foward two seasons and HE DOES. it takes time, there are many reasons why he would be reluctant.
first of all, of her intentions, he probably brushed it off as a little crush, a thing for the man in power, thrill of sleeping with the boss, kind of thing, and in butterflied he shows an example of how when a young lady went off with her boss, how it ended badly and she went after a younger guy, hence all his fears were confirmed. that shed get bored and run off with someone else. he also said, he was intimidated by beauty. and we know he was talking about sara there.
lets not also forget this is the woman who used to take his lectures, and who he has professional authority over. he's her boss. hes responsible for her, do you think it would be easy in the position he was in, to go, 'lets go for dinner to his employee?'. hell no. he said in butterflied he couldnt risk everything he'd work for, for a new life. he was scared. with lady heather and the other lady, these wernt women he had a teacher/student relationship with, were they. he was probably hugely conflicted by his growing feelings for her which he tried to hide, and his feelings of responsibility towards her as her boss. it probably felt wrong to him.
and he never really knew of the extent of her feelings till season 5, snaked, when she laid it all on the table, and he realised, this isnt some little crush. she moved here for me. and things started moving in the right direction thereafter. he refused to fire her, and basically took a personal stand of, fire me, fire her, shes great, i NEED her to told C AND E. that was a huge risk, but he refused, and just like he was there for her for her DUI, and there for her in nesting dolls, he was there for her when she needed him, when her carrer was in his hands.
committed probably the turning point where he realises, he could lose her at any time.
anyways as for what they see in each other. they have a lot in common. this age thing is ridiculous. it didnt stop him with that bones lady who was around the same age as sara, he was obviously aware of the age difference, but that wasnt why he didnt go out with her in season 3.
their both intelligent, as ive said, work-aholics, married to their job, and their attracted to each other. their together cause they want to be. i dont find gsr weird at all. i apprecite not everyone can love the pairing, but it does make sense to a lot of people, and many see chemistry, its completely personal preference, i for one am glad of the storyline and think it works very well.