Well, the subject was brought up in the spoiler thread so I'd like to express my sympathies to David for the public nightmare that is apparently on the horizon for him.
Why must these tragedies always be played out on the public stage?
It's kind of ironic that tomorrow David's stalker, Heidimarie Schnitzer, will go on trial and be sentenced in Innsbruck, Austria. Hopefully her Internet access will be taken away and the horrible websites and blogs that she constructed terrorizing him for all these years will be ordered shut down - and she will get some help!
However, the man can't seem to get a break.
As for the
allegations against David by his ex-girlfriend Liza Marquez, I will only say this.
1. A LOT of guys, and some gals, have a collection of porn. Good porn, bad porn, classic porn and brand new porn. As long as it's not an obession that takes over your life, I don't see the harm. It does get a little old, this lawyer trick of throwing private information like this out for public consumption whenever a lawyer is trying to make someone look like a sleaze or deviant. To me it speaks to trying your case in the court of public opinion and that generally means you have a weak case.
2. If David was upset in the beginning because he wasn't expecting to be a father again, he appears to have "manned up" pretty quick. From everything I've heard and seen, he adores his son. I remember an interview with Melina Kanakaredes, who was working with David on an episode of CSI NY when Marquez, David's son was born. I believe she described David as "giddy". She said it was all he could talk about and he spent all his time showing everyone pictures of the boy. And she is only one example. I've heard many more just like it.
I haven't seen pictures of him with his youngest daughter, so I really can't speak to how they interact. Pictures and film of him interacting with his oldest daughter, Greta, shows what appears to be a close and loving relationship. It's truly sad that this little boy will now grow up, truth or not the
allegation is now out there for him to hear, hearing that is father wanted him aborted. And that his youngest daughter will in the future be faced with the
allegation that her father doubted she was his. How cruel these types of situations can be. Lawyers never seem to see the harm in the
allegations they hurl in their need to win their cases. Hopefully by the time Marquez and Paloma are old enough to be forced to deal with damage caused by this action, they will be confident in their father's love and committment to them.
3. The
allegations of mental and verbal abuse appear to be evident from the start of the relationship and one wonders why anyone would remain in a situation so unpleasant. I can see why a woman with children who has no other options would feel the need to stay, but this was apparently an unhappy situation for Liza before she became pregnant. I find it curious that after the first unpleasant pregnancy, she elected to become pregnant again. Especially since it apparently just led to more unpleasantness for her.
4. I have no problem imaging David is sometimes demanding and difficult to live with. If his method of working, a pefectionist, carries over into his private lifestyle, I would think there would be a lot of times where he is hard to please. We have also heard ad nauseum that David has a temper.
Again this would have been evident from the start, before the first pregnancy and certainly before the second.
5. I have a lot of single mother girl friends. While they are usually working overtime trying to collect their rightfully owed child support, NONE of them received houses or monthly support from their children's fathers. They all had to find employment and support themselves because they were capable of working. One was allowed to obtain vocational training using public assistance because she had no marketable skill. But no one was awarded a house or monthly support at the expense of the child's father - whether he was an ex-boyfriend or ex-husband.
On this point I'll have to admit that my independence and a decision long ago to never allow myself to become dependent upon a man and to always stand on my own as an equal partner in any relationship may be clouding my perception. I would request the support to which my children are entitled, but for me? - I would stand on my own.
As with any situation like this, there are two sides to the story and I'm sure the truth lies somewhere in the middle.
Whatever the future holds regarding this matter, PLEASE, I sincerely hope that ALL parties remember to keep the first priority the innocent children affected here. That seems to be where David's heart was and is.
May this all be settled quickly and and as quietly possible for the sake of the children.
