geekprincess
Dead on Arrival
Re: Grissom&Sara #23 - Hot, Butt-Kicking, Chainsaw Wielding
*sniffs and sticks out lower lip* But I LOVE Grissom when he gets all comforting and protective...he's so darn cute! Actually, now that I think about it, I might like him best when he gets really protective like in "Strip-Strangler" or "Committed" or really comforting like in "Nesting Dolls"...he starts hovering on the border of downright HOT. *gulps* Oh, crap. Does this mean I have WPHS now? Ah, well...I was already half a goner to begin with. Seriously, though, I think Grissom still has the protective instinct towards Sara; it's just that the dynamic has changed now that they're in a relationship. Before, I think he got more worried because he really didn't know what she was thinking or whether she'd break down, a la "Nesting Dolls"; now he's more attuned to her feelings and gives her strength more credit to boot, like sarahvma said. He doesn't worry as much. Not that that means he wouldn't go into full protective overdrive should she need that.
Ha ha...that's pretty much how I felt after watching "Lady Heather's Box" and "Formalities"/"Unbearable".
I for one fully admit that Sara's my favorite character, not Grissom, so I suppose I do make more of an effort to defend her and understand the reasoning behind what she says and does than I do with him. However, I am willing to give him a bit of understanding, if not cut him a break altogether, in the Sofia/Teri Miller/Lady Heather cases, because I don't think he was flirting around just for the heck of it or to hurt Sara. In all three cases, Teri/Lady Heather in particular, I think he may have seen what he did as a genuine attempt to find out if there was something more than friendship, or if the relationship had the potential to go anywhere. However, once Seasons 3-5 kicked in, which means once he got to Sofia and the later part of his, well, association with Lady Heather, I think he realized the depth of his feelings for Sara and became afraid; like he said in "Butterflied," he didn't have to go through the "get-to-know-you"/first dates phase, because he already knew he could have a deep and even lifelong relationship with her. He was dead scared that once he started the ball rolling with Sara, so to speak, his feelings would overwhelm him and he wouldn't be able to let go of her. He wouldn't be completely in control of his feelings or his life any more. When he went out with the other women, he was on a "shallow" enough level that he had the chance of avoiding that. With Sara -- no chance at all. So in a way, I think he did what he did with Teri/Lady Heather/Sofia for much the same reasons that Sara went out with Hank. Both were trying to deal, although in unhealthy ways, with Grissom's lack of ability to confront and act on his feelings. I honestly don't think Grissom ever meant to hurt Sara; it just happened that way because of people's unique ability to do the greatest hurt to the ones they care about the most. Plus, let's face it, Grissom could really suck at dealing with the whole feelings/relationships thing. Of course, being a crazy romantic, I knew they'd get over themselves eventually. They just weren't completely and geekily complete without their other halves. Sigh.
OK, I seriously can't believe I wrote -- well, rambled -- all that, but that's what you get when I've pulled an all-nighter and produced the crappiest paper of my life. Ah, well. It makes sense in my psychotic head. Peace.
~ geekprincess
And he's still trying to protect her.
*sniffs and sticks out lower lip* But I LOVE Grissom when he gets all comforting and protective...he's so darn cute! Actually, now that I think about it, I might like him best when he gets really protective like in "Strip-Strangler" or "Committed" or really comforting like in "Nesting Dolls"...he starts hovering on the border of downright HOT. *gulps* Oh, crap. Does this mean I have WPHS now? Ah, well...I was already half a goner to begin with. Seriously, though, I think Grissom still has the protective instinct towards Sara; it's just that the dynamic has changed now that they're in a relationship. Before, I think he got more worried because he really didn't know what she was thinking or whether she'd break down, a la "Nesting Dolls"; now he's more attuned to her feelings and gives her strength more credit to boot, like sarahvma said. He doesn't worry as much. Not that that means he wouldn't go into full protective overdrive should she need that.
If Grissom so much as glances at another woman, he should be fried in oil.
Ha ha...that's pretty much how I felt after watching "Lady Heather's Box" and "Formalities"/"Unbearable".
I for one fully admit that Sara's my favorite character, not Grissom, so I suppose I do make more of an effort to defend her and understand the reasoning behind what she says and does than I do with him. However, I am willing to give him a bit of understanding, if not cut him a break altogether, in the Sofia/Teri Miller/Lady Heather cases, because I don't think he was flirting around just for the heck of it or to hurt Sara. In all three cases, Teri/Lady Heather in particular, I think he may have seen what he did as a genuine attempt to find out if there was something more than friendship, or if the relationship had the potential to go anywhere. However, once Seasons 3-5 kicked in, which means once he got to Sofia and the later part of his, well, association with Lady Heather, I think he realized the depth of his feelings for Sara and became afraid; like he said in "Butterflied," he didn't have to go through the "get-to-know-you"/first dates phase, because he already knew he could have a deep and even lifelong relationship with her. He was dead scared that once he started the ball rolling with Sara, so to speak, his feelings would overwhelm him and he wouldn't be able to let go of her. He wouldn't be completely in control of his feelings or his life any more. When he went out with the other women, he was on a "shallow" enough level that he had the chance of avoiding that. With Sara -- no chance at all. So in a way, I think he did what he did with Teri/Lady Heather/Sofia for much the same reasons that Sara went out with Hank. Both were trying to deal, although in unhealthy ways, with Grissom's lack of ability to confront and act on his feelings. I honestly don't think Grissom ever meant to hurt Sara; it just happened that way because of people's unique ability to do the greatest hurt to the ones they care about the most. Plus, let's face it, Grissom could really suck at dealing with the whole feelings/relationships thing. Of course, being a crazy romantic, I knew they'd get over themselves eventually. They just weren't completely and geekily complete without their other halves. Sigh.
OK, I seriously can't believe I wrote -- well, rambled -- all that, but that's what you get when I've pulled an all-nighter and produced the crappiest paper of my life. Ah, well. It makes sense in my psychotic head. Peace.
~ geekprincess