forensicsgirl
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Re: Grissom&Sara #23 - Hot, Butt-Kicking, Chainsaw Wielding
Our past 'shippy' scenes, in the Pre-Canon days, were more or less a 50-50 split between "squee" moments ("Since I met you", "Chalk, from plaster") and "Ouch!" moments ("I wish I was like you, I wish I didn't feel anything", "I'm handing out assignments...") As any GSR shipper will tell you, this ship was built on angst, and to lose the not so happy moments of the geeks past is to essentially strip away half the ship.
However, I don't feel that the "music scene" as it has now been dubbed, is on par with the angst of our past. Sure, it wasn't hugs and puppies, but it wasn't a fight by any stretch of the imagination.
I agree that there has been a shift between them since the beginning of their relationship (most than one, if you come from Ireland and, like me, know that 'shift' and 'shifting' means kissing/making out ) But the dynamics have changed - and changed for the better.
I don't agree that what Sara said in 7:06 is on par with Grissom back in 'Invisible Evidence' however. His comment was about several things - being up against a deadline for one, re-asserting his dominance/power over Sara.
However, Sara's comments in 7:06, while it was about power (because I'm not saying Sara doesn't have power over the Bugman, because she DEFINITELY does), it was very different from IE because she was wielding her power a lot more gently than Grissom used to. She didn't snap. She didn't confront him or say what she had to say in an angry or overtly forceful way. She even waited until Greg had left the room before she truly said what was on her mind.
Exactly. The power-balance has shifted to the extent where the Geeks are now on par with each other. It isn't Grissom as bossman/supervisor/mentor/teacher, with Sara following behind, learning all he has to say by rote and revering him. Career wise, he is still on a higher level than her, but that's all. She is her own woman, she has her own mind, she is no longer prepared to kowtow to Grissom, to have him put her in her place and for her to stay there. She is his equal, in every way that counts, and their relationship is all the stronger for it.
Prior to Geek-Canon, we discussed at length the power balance between Grissom and Sara, the fact that he enjoyed having his "marionette-like control" over her, etc. We said at the time that the power-balance would need to equalize between them if they were ever to have a successful relationship. And it has. This is one of the best things about this scene - it shows that they are absolute equals. Sara is now comfortable and confident enough to offer Grissom advice, forcefully but non-aggressively, and he is prepared to take it, without dismissing her as he might have done in the past.
Precisely. It isn't how a couple get through the easy, fun times that demonstrates the strength of their relationship - it's how they get through the tough times, the challenging times. I don't think that the 'music scene' was a particularly challenging time for them, but I definitely think that there will be challenging times to come. But I have confidence that they will see them through, successfully and together, because they've got the balance right. That's my hope for them anyway. But we'll see what is to come...
Edited, because rushing makes my spelling suck
theatresporter said:
I know in the past many shippers have been reluctant to label non-'positive' GSR scenes as being shippy. This is likely because in our pre-canon days, those scenes could have been seen as being indicative of TPTB attempting to break our geeks apart.
Our past 'shippy' scenes, in the Pre-Canon days, were more or less a 50-50 split between "squee" moments ("Since I met you", "Chalk, from plaster") and "Ouch!" moments ("I wish I was like you, I wish I didn't feel anything", "I'm handing out assignments...") As any GSR shipper will tell you, this ship was built on angst, and to lose the not so happy moments of the geeks past is to essentially strip away half the ship.
However, I don't feel that the "music scene" as it has now been dubbed, is on par with the angst of our past. Sure, it wasn't hugs and puppies, but it wasn't a fight by any stretch of the imagination.
How about Grissom's "I'm handing out the assignments" line in IE? I can't imagine many of us swooned over that line, although it was along a similar thread/premise as Sara's comment 7x06. Now, I'm not saying that Sara was attempting to be domineering in the music scene in requesting Grissom lay off Greg, however you can't really argue that there wasn't an element of power in that line indicative of a clear shift that has happened between them since becoming an official couple.
I agree that there has been a shift between them since the beginning of their relationship (most than one, if you come from Ireland and, like me, know that 'shift' and 'shifting' means kissing/making out ) But the dynamics have changed - and changed for the better.
I don't agree that what Sara said in 7:06 is on par with Grissom back in 'Invisible Evidence' however. His comment was about several things - being up against a deadline for one, re-asserting his dominance/power over Sara.
However, Sara's comments in 7:06, while it was about power (because I'm not saying Sara doesn't have power over the Bugman, because she DEFINITELY does), it was very different from IE because she was wielding her power a lot more gently than Grissom used to. She didn't snap. She didn't confront him or say what she had to say in an angry or overtly forceful way. She even waited until Greg had left the room before she truly said what was on her mind.
Yes, Grissom is whipped to a certain extent (IMO), and while I'm not claiming he's going to necessarily be at her beck and call these days for a regular dosage of nookie or whatever, it is because they are in a relationship now that Sara has allowed herself (and Grissom has given her room) to have that increased level of confidence around him, enabling her to speak up over things she previously would have held back on (this Greg thing, for example). It's become more about give and take, rather than it always being about Sara giving and Grissom taking (or, Grissom giving out the shit, and Sara taking that).
Exactly. The power-balance has shifted to the extent where the Geeks are now on par with each other. It isn't Grissom as bossman/supervisor/mentor/teacher, with Sara following behind, learning all he has to say by rote and revering him. Career wise, he is still on a higher level than her, but that's all. She is her own woman, she has her own mind, she is no longer prepared to kowtow to Grissom, to have him put her in her place and for her to stay there. She is his equal, in every way that counts, and their relationship is all the stronger for it.
Prior to Geek-Canon, we discussed at length the power balance between Grissom and Sara, the fact that he enjoyed having his "marionette-like control" over her, etc. We said at the time that the power-balance would need to equalize between them if they were ever to have a successful relationship. And it has. This is one of the best things about this scene - it shows that they are absolute equals. Sara is now comfortable and confident enough to offer Grissom advice, forcefully but non-aggressively, and he is prepared to take it, without dismissing her as he might have done in the past.
Relationships aren't all about fluff and sex and flirtation and kink and cheekiness and heat and fun and sticky (not like that!) sweetness that makes you want to melt into a puddle of goo - no matter how much we'd (on a shallow level at least) like them to be. Without the hard times, one is unable to appreciate the good, nor are you able to revel in a couple's strength if it has never been really tested.
Precisely. It isn't how a couple get through the easy, fun times that demonstrates the strength of their relationship - it's how they get through the tough times, the challenging times. I don't think that the 'music scene' was a particularly challenging time for them, but I definitely think that there will be challenging times to come. But I have confidence that they will see them through, successfully and together, because they've got the balance right. That's my hope for them anyway. But we'll see what is to come...
Edited, because rushing makes my spelling suck