Re: Carmine Giovinazzo Fan Project: You Don't Have To Be Lon
tiara4carmine said:
I personally like the whole commit yourself to the person you love and your life together and the children you'll have, but who gives a crap about marriage. Weddings are nothing but a waste of time, money and energy, and then the divorce is 10 times more costly :lol: :lol:
Interesting little off-topic marriage discussion we're having here. I am totally in agreement with you. Odd for a married woman to say, I know. However, I think it's all about the relationship and not a piece of paper. Having a man committed to you for the rest of his life and having a man legally bound to you for the rest of his life are not necessarily the same thing and, frankly, I'd rather have the former. Whether or not your relationship survives the test of time has absolutely nothing to do with it's legal status. A strong relationship will thrive without marriage and a weak one will only be for the worse when one or both parties feels chained to it.
So ladies, don't ever marry a guy because you think that's what society expects of you. I have a healthy dose of respect for strong, independent women who feel no compulsion to marry. Why am I married? Because 10 years ago, my views on most aspects of life were different. Which is exactly why you should exercise caution. Fortunately, I'm in a fantastic relationship so my evolving life philosophies don't change that.
As for the legal benefits of being married - don't go there for those. Most of them are economic, which should never be an incentive to marry. A tax credit? Not a reason to marry. Being on a spouse's health insurance? Again, not a reason to marry. Social security survivor benefits? Ditto. The only things that might matter, such as being able to make life or death health decisions or handle financial decisions if incapacitated, can be addressed by giving your partner a Power of Attorney. ... Alrighty, end of OT rant. Just thought I'd get my two cents in. Marriage? Ya don't need it.
BC is back up? Woo hoo! Will run right over after this and post my uncensored version. I'll confess I like the uncensored version better ... naturally. But not for the crudeness. Rather because it bothers me when people can't tell what the censored word is and some of mine aren't what you think. In the example of I'll "lick 1,000 calories of hot fudge off your [CENSORED]," literally no one would correctly guess the precise word censored and words matter to me.
GodofMediocrity - Post that puppy and the pic.
CynRyn - Same for you. Great ad and gorgeous pic.
Everyone loves reading these, getting to know a little more about each other and having a face to associate with the posts.
CSI_in_training - While it's now Saturday morning (a lovely 4:30 AM my time - insomnia blows!) and I didn't receive yours, if you can possibly email me within the next few hours, I'd love to include it. I'll check my email for a final time about 8:00 AM PST. After that, well, I'll be out for the day and this project is going out the door with me.
I'll be sure to take pics and post them for you all. Bear with me, but I
probably won't have time to post the pics until Monday. Sunday is my birthday and between birthday festivities and the usual holiday rush that kicks in a week before Christmas, any online time will likely be limited to some quick posting but no significant computer time until Monday.
