^ i want a "like" button, dammit!
Sure she was an abused woman but she left the guy then went back to him.
i don't think that should be an issue when judging her for killing him. many many abused partners return to their abuser many times - this is because abuse (of any variety, sexual, physical or psychological) erodes the abused party's confidence to the point where they genuinely feel worthless and as though they would be unable to survive by themselves. of course to outsiders it seems perverse, but if someone repeatedly tells you or makes you feel that worthless, then you start to believe them. abusers frequently tell their abused that they'll never find someone else, no one else will ever find them attractive, no one else will ever see any point in their existence etc, and the abused can start to believe this even if they are a strong person and/or had self confidence to begin with. it's a classic abuse pattern, so her returning to him is more symptomatic of that than of whether her shooting him was an offence.
But even that wasn't the problem I had, she shot the guy 3 times. If you're shooting at an attacker, I don't know it you'd shoot that many times. Plus she said herself that he had a brain injury from a motorcycle wreck.
i would, i'd want to be sure!:lol: seriously tho. i think the number of shots speaks more to the rage and pent up frustration behind the shooting. one shot is very clinical, if someone is in that position of just snapping like that then multiple shots seems more likely.
as for the brain injury, well, yes it's a mitigating factor for the abuse maybe (although NOT an excuse) but that doesn't give him carte blanche. of course in an ideal world they both would've had outside help in dealing with the injury and affects thereof but that doesn't often happen when it should.
the problem with that is that telling people (even allegedly neutral people) rarely has much impact. unless there is actual physical/sexual violence that is reported at the time at which it happens even the authorities don't have much option but to do nothing (which, btw, is wrong and should change, but that's how things stand)
ah, fair dos, in that case yes, i agree. actually in this country kids have just as much susceptibility to abuse in care/foster homes as from parents so it's kind of a choice between rocks or hard places, sadly
Yes, because telling people always fixes everything, and no abusers get off on technicalities or with light sentences that give them more opportunities to terrorize and abuse their prey. There are too many people who have trusted the system and died for it.
Yep, and this is why the broken system needs a major reworking.
exactly!