Before I start, please bear in mind that I live in the UK and have not seen the ep yet, so I’m making a couple of observations based on what I have heard/read on here (doubtless I will be more in depth when the episode eventually airs here, but I don’t know if we’re having a long break between season 4.0 and 4.5 (S4 restarted).
But I’ve gotton the general jist of what’s happened and I felt like I needed to talk somewhere…
I am completely in shock. Angry, hurt and upset.
What has annoyed me more is not only the destruction of my ship, but I now have no respect left for the character of Danny Messer. Though I still feel desperately sorry for the guy.
Why did it have to be like this? If they wanted to end the D/L relationship, fair enough (I wouldn’t have been/am not happy, but…) but could they frankly have not done it in a more respectful and dignified manner instead of wrecking the character of Danny and the new character of Rikki.
Whether or not people think that Danny “technically” cheated or not (I know that there has been some discrepancy over this, given the distant state of the D/L relationship post “Child’s Play”) he still should have been man enough to say to Lindsay that he didn’t consider it a serious relationship (which I don’t buy- flying to Montana, anyone? Oh wait- nearly the whole of Season 2 and 3!!)
Even if it turns out that they became best-friends-with-benefits, it’s still a scummy thing to do to someone who is your friend and you are supposed to care about. And at the very least I believe he cheated her by giving her the impression that they were in a relationship, and I personally can’t imagine Lindsay agreeing to be anyone’s no-strings bed-buddy.
Other people in other parts of the boards have voiced the opinion that Lindsay should have realised Danny was “going off her”. While I don’t agree, I respect that opinion, but I would also like to throw in that perhaps Danny should have realised that perhaps she was more serious that he apparently was and told her. While she was never addressed as his girlfriend, he also never said she wasn’t (sorry, bad grammar)
Also, I think that Lindsay’s reaction to him forgetting her birthday has been blown out of proportion and been accused as being selfishness, I think that she was trying to get some sort of normality back between them (given that things felt like they were getting back on track during “Playing with matches” {the racing one}) She didn’t have a go at him, it just seemed like she was teasing him about it, because there was still that smile in her voice. The look at the end as he went out the room was one of worry and concern at Danny’s complete lack of enthusiasm for the job he generally loved.
I know that there have been various comparisons between Danny’s behaviour this season to Lindsay’s handling of the mutual attraction in Season 3, but while, yes she stood him up on a dinner date which wasn’t a smart way of handling things, she at least told him straight up in LRC that she wasn’t ready for a relationship with him yet. And, to be fair they weren’t actually in some sort of semi-confirmed relationship at that point.
In “Commuted Sentences” (and the eps before it) they just seemed so happy and …Together.
I also can’t believe that he hasn’t told her yet that he slept with Rikki. IMO, that is cowardly, and before this a coward would have been the last adjective I would have used to describe Danny Messer. Brave, reckless, Loyal… but never a coward.
If Danny wanted to end it, he should have said that he couldn’t deal with a relationship right now.
From the sounds of it, Lindsay’s speech was very honest and dignified. I’m just glad that TPTB didn’t turn her into a sobbing, desperate wreck when she was talking to Danny. Our Linds is strong- with or without Danny.
Though I do still feel for Danny- he’s obviously completely ridden with guilt and grief over the death of Ruben.
I only hope that Danny comes to his senses soon and realises that a “relationship” with the grieving mother of the child he blames himself for the death of that is built on guilt, grief and “just sex” is not healthy compared with a relationship with someone who loves you and considers you her best friend as well as her boyfriend.
Though, if the “look on his face” was the same one as in the promo for 4.16, I think maybe Danny does perhaps have an inkling of what he could lose, even if he doesn’t want to face it at the moment.
Sorry for the rambling and probable contridictions- I realise that I am preaching to the converted (so to speak) here, but I’m quite mixed up and confused about it all and needed somewhere too vent- hope y’all don’t mind. Please don’t get mad at me
Though there are, what 5 more eps this season? There’s still a shred of optimism left in me.
I just don’t know anymore. This has all rather thrown me.
I’m also annoyed with the what now feels like B-S that TPTB fed us at the start of the season about Danny and Lindsay forming the perfect heart in the promo pic etc,etc.
I feel cheated after S2 and S3 and the first half of this season (pre-writers strike).
And while the Lindsay’s reactions in S3 kinda irked me (though in retrospect, maybe she was right to be hesitant?) Yes, she has her faults, but she’s genuinely sweet and I’m Team Lindsay all the way on this one.
I’m with Dutch on staying optimistic (though I’m not sure what I want to happen- told ya I’m all topsy-turvey!)
Sorry, this post became longer than I intended. Sorry guys x
BTW, I’m also quite interested in Flack’s reaction to this…
I realise that everyone has different opinions about this. This is simply mine.
...they noticed how unclear everything already was and decided to play with their feelings some more; give us some more unanswered questions and again leave everyone hanging...and thus not only hurtin' them, but us too...And that's what I am really pissed about...:brickwall:
