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I have really really been trying to stay out of this discussion, but every now and then it draws me in like a sink hole.
Every writers' intent is to engage their audience, whether the audience be a print media or tv/movie. One way to do that is to deal with the human condition. We may all have differing opinions on what constitutes a relationship, but the unifying factor is, we all have an opinion. Relationships are universal.
The question then, in this context, becomes presentation and interpretation. And, frankly, none of us are going to be able to settle, resolve or validate our ships since we all view CSI through the filters of our own experiences, relationships, hopes and dreams.
It's that very ambiguity which keeps us coming back for more, and which makes this purely an intellectual discussion.
For those who know me from the Greg/Sara thread on this board, they know I started off this season as GSR. I evolved, a term I use deliberately, into a Sandle during the course of this past season. In all honesty, it rather snuck up on me. One day I suddenly realized I was tired of being jerked around by Grissom's inconsistent treatment of Sara. I'd had enough. I personally think Sara should have had enough of it too.
I'm not a person given to revealing much about myself in a public forum, but I will say this...there was a point in my life when I was Sara. When I think back on it now, it's amazing how many similarities there were between one of my past relationships and what is depicted between Grissom and Sara. As with G/S, he was older (12 years), a supervisor where I worked (although he had no direct supervisory capacity over me) and he was emotionally closed off. He was a great friend, we got along well, and rumors were around the work place that we were more. We weren't more, we even discussed whether or not we should be "more," but he felt it was inappropriate because we worked together. A common justification for the GSR folk for Grissom's behavior.
The "more" didn't become a part of our relationship until after I left there for another job. And you know what? It didn't help matters any. We were friends, then it became an intimate relationship, and then it went bust.
And the reason for that was simple, even though he was more open than Grissom in that he was willing to DISCUSS the fact that he was emotionally closed off, he was never willing or able to do anything about it. It was too deeply ingrained in his nature.
The point is, in my opinion, people like this just don't change. If Grissom is emotionally unavailable to Sara now, he'd be emotionally unavailable to Sara in the future...if their relationship were to ever grow to something deeper. Frankly, I think Sara needs to have an emotional anchor. I don't mean to say she's needy, but she needs to have consistency in a relationship. I don't see Grissom being able to provide that. And let me qualify that statement by repeating what I said earlier...I am making this interpretation based on what I bring to the topic based on my own experiences. Someone else may see it completely different.
As for the Greg/Sara relationship as it is currently depicted on CSI, I believe they have taken a "friendly" co-worker situation and, during the course of this season, grew that relationship into that of "Friends." There is a difference, a significant one. I believe that your lover should be your best friend. Again, it's a filter from my own experiences that I bring to this discussion. And what I've seen this past season is that Greg is Sara's best friend. She may regain a friendship with Grissom at some point, but baggage is very heavy, and weighs down any relationship. Questions of trust, of second guessing every comment and look, all aspects of dealing with a relationship with baggage, are exhausting. If you spend that much time just trying to deal with the baggage, how much time is there to enjoy the friendship, much less a more intimate relationship?
Greg and Sara don't have that baggage between them. I don't, however, think either is ready to declare undying love for the other. I think Sara needs to work on her trust issues, and resolve the conflicted emotions I suspect she harbors for both of her parents. Greg, in my opinion, has grown more as a character, in one season, than all the other characters combined. We learned a lot about Greg this season I think. He has aspirations, he wanted to be a CSI and he doggedly stayed on that quest until he fulfilled it. It speaks to a determined character. He also isn't afraid to stand up to the almost, at times, mythic Grissom, i.e. his confrontation with Grissom saying it would be nice if someone OTHER than Greg told Mia she was doing a good job.
What it also suggests is that once Greg sets his mind to something, he applies himself to it with that steadfastness which I think Sara needs in whoever she has a relationship with. He's steady and consistent, with a joy for living which Sara has forgotten in the past few years.
And that is why I think Greg is who Sara should be with...just to answer the initial question!
Every writers' intent is to engage their audience, whether the audience be a print media or tv/movie. One way to do that is to deal with the human condition. We may all have differing opinions on what constitutes a relationship, but the unifying factor is, we all have an opinion. Relationships are universal.
The question then, in this context, becomes presentation and interpretation. And, frankly, none of us are going to be able to settle, resolve or validate our ships since we all view CSI through the filters of our own experiences, relationships, hopes and dreams.
It's that very ambiguity which keeps us coming back for more, and which makes this purely an intellectual discussion.
For those who know me from the Greg/Sara thread on this board, they know I started off this season as GSR. I evolved, a term I use deliberately, into a Sandle during the course of this past season. In all honesty, it rather snuck up on me. One day I suddenly realized I was tired of being jerked around by Grissom's inconsistent treatment of Sara. I'd had enough. I personally think Sara should have had enough of it too.
I'm not a person given to revealing much about myself in a public forum, but I will say this...there was a point in my life when I was Sara. When I think back on it now, it's amazing how many similarities there were between one of my past relationships and what is depicted between Grissom and Sara. As with G/S, he was older (12 years), a supervisor where I worked (although he had no direct supervisory capacity over me) and he was emotionally closed off. He was a great friend, we got along well, and rumors were around the work place that we were more. We weren't more, we even discussed whether or not we should be "more," but he felt it was inappropriate because we worked together. A common justification for the GSR folk for Grissom's behavior.
The "more" didn't become a part of our relationship until after I left there for another job. And you know what? It didn't help matters any. We were friends, then it became an intimate relationship, and then it went bust.
And the reason for that was simple, even though he was more open than Grissom in that he was willing to DISCUSS the fact that he was emotionally closed off, he was never willing or able to do anything about it. It was too deeply ingrained in his nature.
The point is, in my opinion, people like this just don't change. If Grissom is emotionally unavailable to Sara now, he'd be emotionally unavailable to Sara in the future...if their relationship were to ever grow to something deeper. Frankly, I think Sara needs to have an emotional anchor. I don't mean to say she's needy, but she needs to have consistency in a relationship. I don't see Grissom being able to provide that. And let me qualify that statement by repeating what I said earlier...I am making this interpretation based on what I bring to the topic based on my own experiences. Someone else may see it completely different.
As for the Greg/Sara relationship as it is currently depicted on CSI, I believe they have taken a "friendly" co-worker situation and, during the course of this season, grew that relationship into that of "Friends." There is a difference, a significant one. I believe that your lover should be your best friend. Again, it's a filter from my own experiences that I bring to this discussion. And what I've seen this past season is that Greg is Sara's best friend. She may regain a friendship with Grissom at some point, but baggage is very heavy, and weighs down any relationship. Questions of trust, of second guessing every comment and look, all aspects of dealing with a relationship with baggage, are exhausting. If you spend that much time just trying to deal with the baggage, how much time is there to enjoy the friendship, much less a more intimate relationship?
Greg and Sara don't have that baggage between them. I don't, however, think either is ready to declare undying love for the other. I think Sara needs to work on her trust issues, and resolve the conflicted emotions I suspect she harbors for both of her parents. Greg, in my opinion, has grown more as a character, in one season, than all the other characters combined. We learned a lot about Greg this season I think. He has aspirations, he wanted to be a CSI and he doggedly stayed on that quest until he fulfilled it. It speaks to a determined character. He also isn't afraid to stand up to the almost, at times, mythic Grissom, i.e. his confrontation with Grissom saying it would be nice if someone OTHER than Greg told Mia she was doing a good job.
What it also suggests is that once Greg sets his mind to something, he applies himself to it with that steadfastness which I think Sara needs in whoever she has a relationship with. He's steady and consistent, with a joy for living which Sara has forgotten in the past few years.
And that is why I think Greg is who Sara should be with...just to answer the initial question!