Expressing criticism of a character doesn't equal 'hate' to me. Maybe I'm just defining things wrong, but I don't consider my feelings for Lindsay to be 'hate.' I can be involved in a discussion about the character if one is present, I can find positives about her--but I'm not going to turn a blind eye to negatives that I feel are there. And for Lindsay, there are a
lot of negatives at this point. I'm sorry if people don't like to hear things against a character they like, but you have to understand why we'd react that way to what seems to be happening in that episode.
I'm not a fan of confrontation, and I'd be tempted to avoid a situation, but if I wanted to get over my issues, move on, and be an adult--I'd force myself to step up, meet the person face to face, and speak. It's not easy, running away is easier (in the short term at least).
Are we supposed to assume that Lindsay has moved on at this point? If she's moved on and is growing past this situation, then why is she avoiding Danny, who has already said he'd be there as her friend? Or are we supposed to think she'll go to Montana and come back a changed woman and we aren't supposed to consider how improbable that is? Maybe they aren't going to have her grow at all--we're assuming that she's going to change from this experience, but perhaps that's a misguided assumption. Maybe this is meant to tell us her problems, and she
isn't going to deal with them. Who knows at this point?
At this point, we know very little about anything, including the scene we've gotten the spoiler for. We won't know anything for sure until we actually see that episode (in January, maybe?), but I don't see anything wrong with discussing it now.