^Maybe the best thing to do is take it slow and start out by maybe telling her about a random (made up) friend who's gay and see wht her reaction is. I mean, of course you shouldn't lie to her or anything, but you could just try to work something like that into the conversation, it doesn't necessarily have to be a friend, maybe you can find some other way to find out about what she thinks of gay poeple in general, because if she's not gay herself you might want to know before telling her you have feeligns for her . I don't know if that made sense at all, sorry . You know, there are certain things my girlfriend and I look for in other women to determine whether or not they're gay. First, there's a certain vibe, I don't know how to explain it, and I don't know whether everyone is as tuned in to people as I am, but it sure helps with recognizing lesbians . So anyway, there's this certain "I can handle myself, I don't need a man"-vibe, it's really impossible to explain, it's soemthing I feel when being around straight friends (female), to a certain extend I feel that they're all kind of helpless in cetain situations, even though they sure don't realize it themselves...I have found that I'm almost always the only one who "feels" this. It's like, take Jorja for example, you see the way she walks, right? Dead give-away. I have not encountered one straight woman walking that way ever. But I've met a lot of gay women, and noticed it in a lot of gay women on TV, some of them have the male-walk, which I totally dig . ANother thing we're looking for, except the lesbain haircut , are short fingernails. And pants that aren't tight but still nicely fitted at the butt . Now I know that either of these signs doesn't mean anything, but taken together they are sure signs of lesbianism . Other than that, I don't think that there's really a way to know for sure, it's all about the vibe, and you have to feel that, try to tune in to that, I had to learn it, too, took me maybe about a year, but now I'm almost always right .