Jorja/Sara Pic Thread #5: A Beautiful Soul

Jorja_Rain and all interested parties.

Board manager here.

The personal lives of the stars should be just that, personal, unless they discuss things themselves.

I don't know this star's orientation. I don't care either. That is her business. If she wants us to know, gay or straight or asexual, she will tell us. Until then, I think courtesy is in order. If she's straight, she's private. If she is gay, she's both private and closeted. That is how she wants it and none of our damned business.

Jorja_Rain, do you know me? Would you feel confortable speculating as to my sexuality? I am also a very private person who finds it tacky to discuss my sexual life. Many people surprisingly, are still discreet.

This board is really more set up to discuss the shows and characters than an actor's personal life. I hear enough of that on TV! We shouldn't be projecting shipper stuff onto actors/actresses. All too often that happens. It's a compliment to the actors/actresses that we identify with them so closely. But we must remember two things: They are playing make-believe characters, and their personal lives as actors/actresses are off-limits unless they release information themselves.

I am therefore asking you to remove the avatar. IF the actress has come out and is gay, then of course an avatar reflecting that is welcome.

But trying to force an actress to be what you want her to be is wrong and is rude. Would you like someone to make an avatar of yourself displaying the wrong orientation? That would also be wrong and rude.

I understand that these characters move you and that people find the actors/actresses handsome/pretty. That's normal. But let's not get carried away with it all.

Thank you.

 

Usually said by people who really DO mean it.

Sorry. I hate when people preface stuff with phrases like that. Back on topic.

That is my point! If you assume she is EITHER straight or gay, you have an equal chance of being wrong. Best to not go there. Besides, we're really here to discuss the show, not speculate on the actress's personal and private sexuality.

What makes you think she would not? This has zip to do with orientation, more with privacy. Many people, myself included, do not like people speculating on our sexuality. Not because we're ashamed of sexuality, but because the over-discussion of it (especially online) cheapens it, no matter what one's orientation. Why do so many people stick their noses into stuff that is none of their business?

Again - we're here to discuss the show. Is it NECESSARY to speculate on an actress's sexuality? Do we need to know about her private life? Does playing a character expose a person to all sorts of impertinent nosy questions, including ones on one of the most private of things, one's sexual life (or lack thereof)?

Yes, it's a bit of a leap, to be sure. I won't present my limited credentials (including news articles) as it's still small potatoes compared to an actor/actress. That doesn't make the point any less valid. Real people usually draw lines between what they reveal and what they wish to keep private. The actress may have disclosed some personal info. That was her choice. Does that then obligate her to listen to fans who identify so strongly with her, that they might wish to make her into something that she may not be?

I'm sorry, but that's a bit creepy.

Actors are paid performers. Nothing more. Nothing less. To identify with them so closely that one will bend truth, or invade privacy, even online (and who knows who reads stuff here) is frankly, stalkerish creepy to me.

Because it DOES matter. It's none of your damned business (or the other poster's) what the actress does in her non-character time. Doesn't matter if she's given 1,000 interviews, doesn't matter if she's given some private type details, there is a line between fan and performer and people who cross it need to get a life.

She's an actress, not a 'shipper's dream. She's a paid performer who probably enjoys her craft a great deal, but at the end of the day, she goes home, feeds the dog (if she has one), kicks back and relaxes and is just one of us.

What actresses don't need are fans who get obsessive. And I won't condone it.

My rules are really common sense. I see no point in speculating on the real lives of the actors. That crosses the line between appropriate and inappropriate. If some cannot handle that, well then, that's why there are things like LJ.