Re: Grissom&Sara #23 - Hot, Butt-Kicking, Chainsaw Wielding
he, on the other hand, seems to be more welcome to the whole issue. as you pointed out sarah, he appreciates tradition. but still i don't think he would decide on any of this firstly b/c he's not the kind of guy who would propose after a couple of months of relationship, and secondly, sara made it clear what she thinks about it.
I think Sara knows that he's a little more traditional, though. Because once Grissom was in the room, when Nick echoed her earlier words back to her, she kind of blushingly "clarified" what she had meant.
I don't think she wants to close the door on it with him, but I also don't believe she'd be dying to get hitched.
And the other thing is that it would be rather easy for them to get married and say, "See? You can't fire us - we're husband and wife", and I think if there was one situation Sara would be totally against using marriage for, it would likely be blackmail.
as i was thinking more about Rashomama, i looked at sara's anti-marriage statement from a different angle. what if she wanted to give Grissom a signal that he doesn't have to propose to her in the future, so he would be less anxious about making next steps in their relationship? if we assume that Rashomama takes place in the early/middle stage, they surely weren't talking about it yet. Grissom was uncertain what her expactations are but i can't see him talking about marriage openly with her. it's possible that both of them felt this topic coming but didn't want to address it. therefore sara, made her view clear with everybody around so it would look natural, not forced and less awkward.
True, but she made her REALLY strong comments with the other guys, and then kind of said, "Uh... no... I didn't say that, I said... for people who don't understand it"
And then both Sara and Grissom prove that they know the lore of marriage by giving the history of the bridesmaid - so Sara pretty much says, "And I DO understand it".
And Grissom says the same.
I do wonder, if they did get married and they did want a ceremony, whether Grissom would want them to have a priest do the honors? I mean, I know he's not a practicing Catholic, but it's clear he still has a lot of respect for the church and the religion, so it might be important to him - and something his mother would have wanted.
Two things: I think that although Grissom doesn't practice organized religion, IF they had a ceremony, he'd probably still want it to be done in the Catholic Church. Tradition.
Secondly, I don't see why everyone's so shocked that Mother Grissom has probably passed on. I don't mean here, but just in general. Grissom is a very private man. He told us three years ago that she was still alive, but isn't it possible that in any of the years following that he seemed particularly defeated, it was because he *had* gotten the news?
I mean, he wouldn't tell his co-workers about a disease that might cause him to retire. I really doubt that he was going to burst into the breakroom and go, "Guess what, guys? My mom died!"
Also, note that when he said "belonged" to Sara, she didn't seem surprised. So if Mother Grissom *is* dead, Sara was likely one of the first, if not the only, people/person he told.
But I would like to say this: I agree that people use it as an excuse not to like GSR. I mean, if anything, Grissom mentioned Sara as being young as a perk in Butterflied so even HE never used it as an excuse. It really bothers me that their age difference grosses people out. I mean, wow, they are both adults.
What I find funny is that the same people accuse Sara of being a downer. An age gap is usually more important when the emotional ages of the two people are divided. I don't think that's the case with GSR.
I think it was because first the look that Grissom gave Sara when she told him that the vic was ten weeks pregnant. And then, Sara wearing the mask when she was examining the car because no one really wears anything when they're in the lab (unless they wanted to do a throw back like in season four how they started to wear the little boots to the crime scenes) so that was like wtf is she wearing the mask? And then speculation was that she was wearing the mask because of the strong sense of the chemicals and can "harm the baby" if she is preganant. IMO she isnt pregnant and i dont think TPTB are going to let that happen and i really dont want to see that happen i just want a kiss damn it ....
Grissom's look seemed to be very private when Sara announced that Father Frank had slept with her. Very much a kind of sad scoff, sort of, "Well... not as much of a surprise as others might find it".
Like I said, it's very possible that they're making hints for pregnancy in case they *want* to use it, but I don't think we'll get any real anvils in either direction (preggers or no) until WP returns from the play. I have a feeling a lot is banking on what he feels like doing when he returns.
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