CSI_NY_Addict said:
And I always get the feeling here that those like me, who are actually big fans of Anna Belknap, tend to be either ignored or kind of attacked...
I had a feeling that may be a strong contributing factor. I can't speak to the issue of being ignored, as people simply respond to whichever posts strike the urge to respond. But the issue of feeling attacked is one that comes up frequently.
Just so that everybody is clear on the policy -- It is perfectly acceptable to disagree with the opinion of another poster. That's the nature of intelligent discussion. We don't all see things the same way. If we did, this would be one supremely boring universe. However, it is
never acceptable to devalue another poster for the views they espouse. Anytime an instance of harassment comes to view, the moderators of this board will step in and make sure no one is being called names, told to shut up or whatnot.
You may ignore my post here, thinking she is new and hasn't anything to say...
Not at all. Thanks for speaking up and I hope we see you move from lurker to active poster.
Deb, this is a good thread, although I hesitated to post.
:lol: The irony of that isn't lost on me. When people hesitate to post in response to the question, "Why aren't you posting?" that signals that it's time for a sit-down, or as close to that as we can come in an online setting.
It's unnerving to enter Talk and enter any thread, any thread, save the pro-Lindsay thread, and read overwhelmingly negative anti-Lindsay or anti-DL sentiment. I understand DF fans comprise a large contingent of the board; however, DL fans are often criticized for their views. I'm e-friends with several of the pro-DF people, you included, and know nothing's personal. However, others don't have thick skin and feel they're being personally attacked when every post they add is jumped on by no less than five individuals. Pro-DL posters are treated with contempt and are condescended to.
Criticism of an individual for their views is certainly something we can work on. It's not the policy of the forum to allow such criticism, so I hate to see people feel that that's how they're being treated.
However, the coming onto the board and reading overwhelmingly anti-Lindsay or anti-D/L sentiment isn't something that we can curb. No one needs to censor their views. If a large contingent of the board is anti-Lindsay, then it stands to reason that a large percentage of the posts related to Lindsay will be negative.
I'm back, because I won't be scared off. I'll post my pro-DL, pro-Lindsay posts, because that's who I am. There's a lot of people here who are afraid to voice their true opinion, so I guess I'll take the heat for them. It's no big deal.
You go, girl! That's what it takes for everyone to peacefully co-exist around here. I don't want to see anyone leave because they feel they can't speak their mind. Please , please speak your mind. We can all have differing opinions and as long as we voice them in a way that is respectful of one another, there is no reason for conflict.
Personally, we want TPTB to know that every member of CSI:NY is appreciated.
That is one thing this board has over the other boards out there.
TPTB do read this board. Discussing the show on smaller off-shoot boards may bring the feeling of comfort in numbers when your view is the only view supported by that board, but if you have something you really want TPTB to know, this is the place.
Thanks for wanting to know what's up, MrsG.
With the amount of time many of us have invested in this place, we really need to work through any issues, instead of just letting valuable members walk away. You're one of those I hate to see go elsewhere for your posting fun.
A lot of rules are being broken, there is swearing, making fun of actors themselves, and it is a very anti-lindsey board.
The swearing is something we could try to enforce, if it's a problem for people. I'll own up to being an offender, myself. However, this site does have a sister site devoted to Star Trek and you'd be amazed at what flies over there. I think some things like swearing (in limited doses) kind of depend on the character of the board and the comfort level of those who post on it. If someone drops a dirty word in a sexual context, we usually say something about it. But if it's an articulate post where someone is so excited about having just viewed "the best f***ing episode ever," that they forget to censor their f-bomb, that sort of thing tends to slide.
As for making fun of actors, it is okay to critique an actor's performance or abilities and, in that context, negative remarks about the real person (as opposed to fictional persona) are fine. But even then, it's not really useful to discussion to simply say someone sucks as an actor. Generally, comments along those lines are supported with specifics.
The anti-Lindsay thing really can't be helped. If that's how people feel, that's how they should post. Those who like Lindsay should never take it personally. If you like her, that's fantastic. Sing her praises and counter any criticism of her character with your own examples and instances of things you enjoy about the character.
Side note- what's a DF fan? Is it what I think it is...?
A D/F fan is a Danny/Flack fan. There is a contingent of the fan base that feels Danny was paired with the wrong person.
