Sorry I didn't type out the little Glamour thing for you guys yesterday, but I didn't have the magazine handy. I do now. It's the April 2007 issue. Drew Barrymore is on the cover. Page 346. An article called "Real Women Reveal Their Sex Fantasies." They changed the heading on mine. It was "The One About A Televsion Character" and they changed it to "The One About A Celebrity" which doesn't make a whole lot of sense as it's about Danny, who is fictional and hence not a celeb.
My fantasy originally had more detail and the expert commented on why I'd find Danny more attractive than Carmine and I responded to that. As printed, they cut out the details of the fantasy and cut the back of forth discussion of finding a fictional character more attractive than the real man. Anyway, here goes[/i]:
The Fantasy:
"I have a recurring fantasy involving Danny Messer, intense detective from 'CSI:NY' played by Carmine Giovinazzo. He interrogates me for a crime I didn't commit, and I somehow convince him of my innocence. His passion proves ot be arousing, and I bust a move on him on my way out the door. He shoves me against a wall and we go for it."
So What Does It Mean?
A lot of women fantasize about celebrities to feel better about themselves (Hey, Brad Pitt wants me? I'm hot!), but often the characters they play provide great material too. "Because Danny is fictional, he's completely safe," says Queen [a sex expert]. A woman might opt for a made-up character over a real-life person in her fantasy life if she feels the need for a wide berth between herself and her erotic dreams (there's that darn guilt again!). Scott Halztman, M.D., author of the forthcoming 'The Secrets of Happily Married Women' and a psychiatrist at Brown University in Providence, Rhode Island, warns women against getting too caught up with this idealized fantasy figure. "No real-life man is going to burst into the burning builoding, rescue you from the fire and carry you off into the sunset," he says. "If you hold your partner up to this standard, both of you are going to be disappointed."
Does That Make Sense
"That analysis sounds spot-on," says Deborah. "For a married woman like me, fantasizing about someone who isn't real is guilt-free and comes without any of the dangers of picturing someone more accessible, like a co-worker or a next-door neighbor."
If you're wondering how it is that I came to write this little blurb, a friend of a friend works for Glamour and my friend said, "Oh, you're looking for someone with a crush on a tv character? I've got just the person for you!" :lol: I actually don't read the magazine and had to ask, "A sex fantasy about Danny? Sure, I can write something. How long and how dirty?" :lol: Short and clean. Bummer. :lol:
