With a storyline like that where Jesse wife was killed,I am suppoused to feel sorry for him.Instead I was annoyed with the way he treated Anna and handled the whole situation.Storylines and Miami tend to be crazy but a good actor can make the best of it.
Completely agreed.
I admit, sometimes the character of Horatio really annoys me. However, the way he is portrayed is successful at getting me to empathize with him, even when he oversteps boundaries. I can simultaneously feel annoyed with his actions (as in, "Oh, H, that really wasn't a good idea. You know better than that!"), but empathize with his feelings and reasoning (more like "Yeah, you shouldn't have done that, but I can see where you're coming from").
For example, I found the whole Julia/Ron Saris baby momma drama saga kind of annoying, but I definitely got the sense that Horatio truly wanted to protect his son Kyle, and Kyle's mother. He cared about both of them.
On the other hand, when Jesse started following Anna, under the guise of "protecting" her from the guy who killed his wife, I got no sense that he gave a rat's patooty about her. To me, his actions came across as controlling, not from a place of concern for her. No matter how I tried to look at it, I just couldn't really feel sympathy for him.
To be honest, I'm not sure why this show has made it so hard for me to empathize with the character. Is it Eddie Cibrian's acting chops? Bad writing? Or a combination of both?
I'm hesitant to place all the blame on Eddie Cibrian. I did see the episode of Criminal Minds someone mentioned earlier, in which he guest starred as the unsub. I thought he did a good job, so I don't see him as a bad actor across the board. Maybe portraying this kind of character is just not something that he's skilled at.
And, of course, we all know how bad the writing on this show can be. Plot holes, out-of-character scenarios, etc. It's definitely plausible to suggest that the writers, at the very least, didn't make it any easier to sympathize with Jesse.
My best guess is that it's a combination of the two: Eddie Cibrian has difficulty portraying Jesse as someone to empathize with in this kind of context, and that the way this character was written makes it even more difficult for him to do so.