Lady Heather did what people paid her to do. So did Catherine. I don't see a difference.
If somebody asks me to kill them an pays me to do so and I do it, I do what people pay me to do. This is not to say what Heather did was wrong (I don't think it was wrong), but it's a verifiable fact that the "violence" factor (not the "sex" factor) of her former profession may be bothering to some people (for example my dad and my brother, who force me to change the channel each time a LH episode airs - guees they like lace and not leather).
I ask you to bear in mind that this is your take on the character. Firstly, Heather took off with her daughter for some reason. Women who are married to good, stable men don't just up and leave and take their children - who, particularly when infants, are expensive to raise - with them.
Oh, there are reasons why a woman who's married to a good, stable man can leave and take her child/ren. If they're not stable themselves, for example, if they're too young (which seemed to be the case) and she's scared she'll lose her power.
Secondly, I don't think you can get a good read on anyone in five seconds, even if it is a TV show.
But a TV show is about what you're shown, or at least what has been implied. Five seconds is all we had from the ex-husband and from what Heather said and what the ex-husband has said and done it can't be inferred or suspected that he was abusive.
I don't mean to imply that Lady Heather is not flawed. Everyone has their flaws, and they're what make us human (both Lady Heather and Grissom would agree with me, I think
). If I had to pick one out for Heather, I'd say she is unforgiving, willful, and distrustful (OK, that's three
). But here's where I get to my commentary: I've worked with and for enough women to have seen that the biggest critics of women are other women. Lady Heather doesn't fit the mold that "polite society" wants her to fit - she's not a suit-clad anal-retentive professional with a Lexus, two and a half kids, and a McMansion in the suburbs. I think that's really why she bothers a lot of people. She's a square peg that can't be fit into a round hole and that makes people uncomfortable. Discomfort leads to distrust. And really, that's a reflection of life, so while I disagree with you, I do give props to the writers and to Melinda Clarke for having created so real a character.
If a man defends another man, it's male solidarity.
If a woman defends a man, she's blinded because she probably has a crush on him.
If a man defends a woman, he's being objective because doesn't have reasons to catfight with her.
If a woman defends another woman, she has a girlcrush.
If a man critizices another man, it's because he can see clearly his faults.
If a woman criticizes a man, she's a feminazi and needs to get laid.
If a man criticizes a woman he's being objective and saying it as it is.
If a woman criticizes another woman she's jealous or feels threatened by the other woman's awesomeness and/or rebellion against the establishment.
And speaking of which, what establishment is she exactly against? -> She's in Vegas she fits there, she has good money, she had a kid (and a mansion in the suburbs!) and she beats men for a living! on paper, women should love her.
How can you have two and a half kids?
This:
Two points I'd like to make about this. Firstly, Sara's a lovesick puppy. Of course she doesn't make a fuss. Leaving Grissom was one of the strongest things she ever did.
Agreed. I really like Sara as a character, and I don't think it makes her weak that she's always been completely in love with Grissom, but she did spend a significant amount of time waiting for him to come around. And come around he did. He's stalled now, and her leaving was a strong thing to do--and the right thing. If they're meant to be, he'll come around, or find some way to make it work. Sara has always been chasing Grissom; it's his turn now, or it's not meant to be. Her recognizing that and acting on that is significant, and if they do end up back together (which I suspect they will), they'll end up stronger as a couple for it.
Well, I agree that Sara has always been too easily available to Grissom, but I don't know much about the chasing. She came to Vegas the minute he called her and left everything she had in San Francisco for it. But she was working as a CSI in San Francisco and really didn't have a lot, and Las Vegas is the #2 lab in the country, is a cheaper city than SF and probably more contacts available. So, it wasn't such a doormat-ey decision after all. And later she got this pseudoboyfriend (then again, not waiting for him
that much). And then, she asked him one time,
one and only one time to go have dinner together - he said no, she didn't insist. She stayed in Vegas and didn't have a boyfriend at that time, but wouldn't it be more weakening to leave her job and/or get a boyfriend just because Grissom said no? She needs to bring home the (soy) bacon too, even if its just one portion for her. And finally, just before they got together (probably because Grissom finally decided to give the big step) Sara and Greg were bonding a lot, there was something heppening there and well, that could have been what prompted Grissom to act. All of this to say she was there around Grissom, but doing her own thing, not actively "waiting".
