KL,
It's not funny. To be honest, I never thought it was funny (though of course we all sometimes joke about it). Your puerile antics drive me crazy and I don't want to put up with them anymore. I'm not saying I don't want to put up with YOU anymore, but I AM saying that you need to modify your behavior. You're an adult. You've been an adult (at least in the legal sense) for the better part of 4 years. You can't keep doing this.
No, you can't blame TM for what you did last night/this morning. You came out of the establishment and sprinted in the exact opposite direction of where we needed to go without any provocation from TM or any of the rest of the group. You did it because you knew someone would follow you, would spoon-feed you the attention you want so badly, would chase you down and "save you". Jo did chase you down, and then you sprinted away again. So don't blame TM for the way you took off for a THIRD TIME because I happen to know that you were already in a "sprinting" mood.
Yes, I know TM said something hurtful to you... because he was about 12 shades of drunk at the time. Drunk people are known to say stupid things, so it's generally not wise to react to a surly "f**k off" from a thoroughly inebriated person by heeding the invective they've hurled at you!!!
You know what else you can't blame on TM? The way you dropped all of your possessions in front of us before you took off down the sidewalk and disappeared into the darkness. We had no way to contact you because we had your phone. We had your purse, your ID and EVERYTHING. You didn't even have your damn sweater anymore. You made yourself totally helpless before taking off and leaving SIX OTHER PEOPLE to wonder if we would have to wait all night for you to wander back to us.
Here's the "best" part, though, KL - once you finally wandered back, once we caught up to you, you acted hurt and betrayed when AC and I told you that it WASN'T FUNNY, that this crap needs to stop. You brought up the death of your mother... and I know that the death of a loved one can twist you into knots, that it can leave you hollow and desperate and confused, but there have to be healthier ways to deal with it. You can't keep doing these reckless, dangerous things, expecting us to follow after you, to catch you, to bring you back, to give you an enabling pat on the back, to sweep your unacceptable behavior under the rug. SD lost her mother less than a year ago and I'm sure it's just as painful for her, but she's functioning, she's getting along. I'm not trying to turn this into a competition, a "who-can-be-more-well-adjusted" contest, but you should recognize that people can cope with these tragedies without being self-destructive. You need to recognize your behavior as self-destructive and talk to someone about it! You need HELP! And you can't expect us to continue to suffer your "shenanigans" in the meantime!
It just occurred to me - the "best" part wasn't you acting as though we'd punched you in the gut by confronting you about your childishness. The "best" part was your refusal to get into the car. You insisted on staying on M. Avenue by yourself and waiting for your father, who was at least 45 minutes away, to pick you up (because apparently you had no money left and wouldn't take cab money from us). You insisted that you were disowning all of us as friends and that you never wanted to so much look at us again, and nothing I said, not even my assurance that you could still hate us as much as you liked, would get you into the car. I couldn't bodily drag you into the vehicle (because that'd be kidnapping), so I had to leave you there. It was 3:30am and there were 5 other drunk people who were NOT going to wait patiently for your father to show up.
I had to leave you there. ALONE.
All because YOU did something spectacularly stupid and then didn't enjoy being told as much.
So............. if you need to disown everyone and take a "vacation" from social life, fine. Try to fix your problems on your downtime, OK? Because like I said, I don't want to deal with your little outbursts anymore. I'm not disowning you like you're claiming to disown me, but I am disowning your inappropriate behavior.
Get yourself right and then come back.
