I think I was only smacked once as a kid. And to this day I still remember what it was for and it is something that I have never ever done since! But with my parents it was always an explanation about why we shouldn't have done what I did, and how they were disappointed in our choices which for some reason upset me a lot more, and then it was off to the porch to think about what we had done (apparently they didn't think that the bedroom should be a place of punishment, which I guess makes sense, I still love to spend time in my room and I might not if I had spent a lot of time being punished in there.) But there was the threat of the 'jam spoon' if we were being naughty my Mum would get it out and put it on the bench and that was enough. I don't think that smacking is necessary, my parents managed to control 6 kids without it. (I think we all only got smacked once, for really bad stuff) but I do think that attitudes vary a lot depending on where you are from. In NZ most people when I was a kid viewed it as acceptable, I mean most kids were smacked. Although because we have a huge ethnic mix we have a lot of very extreame views. We also have a lot of problems with child abuse, so there is no corporal punishment in schools etc. I won't be smacking my kids when I have them, I will probably employ my parents techniques, since they seemed to work.